Interloper wrote:
I genuinely love to talk about martial-internal training because it is a great passion of mine, and because so much of my training is solo with little opportunity to have exchanges with others who do what I do. I'm juggling a business and caring for frail, elderly parents and maintaining my home and all of the responsibilities that come with that. If it stops being fun to come here, then it no longer serves a purpose. Life has enough stresses in it; training is my solace and my haven. I come here for fun and relaxation, not to eat my heart out.
By happy happenstance, I've met a couple of the people who regularly post on RSF, and we had a lot of fun touching hands. They had the right attitude, and we all came away the better for it. The more I see of the dynamics that go on here, the more I prefer in-person play dates, and the less I enjoy "discussions," especially those like this one.
I'm sorry to hear you feel that way. In person is almost always better. Meeting people on RSF and training/exchanging ideas in a friendly and constructive manner is what it's about -- in part. But for those people who cannot arrange to meet, discuss or have access to the teacher, colleagues or information they seek--RSF is/should be a place to do so via the other available mediums. Second best to in person is VIDEO, third best is PICTURE / diagram, fourth is textual only description/explanation.
Forget any arguments between others and your teacher, you are a separate person accountable for your own actions and words.
As someone who has known Chris personally for over a decade now (many many years in same location) I can assure you he is not a person of malice: The definition is:" a desire to inflict injury, harm, or suffering on another, either because of a hostile impulse or out of deep-seated meanness: the malice and spite of a lifelong enemy." IN fact Chris is quite the opposite, he would be the first to walk away from a fight, even though he could probably handle most people without putting his tea down.
I may be bias, but from reading back on some of the threads, Chris (and others) have been MORE than patient and fair to both Dan and yourself. I see no malice at all (especially towards you). I apologize if anything I myself have posted came across as personal, it is not. I would not say anything to anyone online I wouldn't say in person, the difference being in person, I come across as much nicer about things.
Interloper wrote:Chris "Middleway,"
The above was not directed at you. I think your intentions are honorable, but there are others whose motivations are less than benign. My best suggestion is that you get to an IP/aiki seminar next time one is scheduled for England. Hands-on is worth more than a thousand words, and you'll have a much better opportunity to discuss things and ask questions face-to-face.
If middleways intentions are honorable why not discuss the topic he started? After all, to beat a dead horse, YOU are the one who first mentioned the question, and refused to provide any input. You don't want to waste time here if its stressful, well I (and others i'm sure at least in topical threads) don't want YOU to waste OUR time with your vagueness and lack of on topic contributions. Threads in this forum especially is supposed to be a place for on-topic and quality discussion.
While Toms call to treat you completely separate from your teacher would normally be fair. I don't think it is, as evidenced above you are plugging Dan's seminars, while at the same time side-tracking yet another thread-one that stemmed from your other detraction in my thread. Not to mention it seems as though you are Discouraging another forum member to not engage in discussion here. We need people here that are willing to share and encourage the same.
Just forget any-ill will towards Chris or anyone else , and not wanting to discuss with them. There are plenty of forum members that could potentially benefit from the conversation and maybe your input.
I have no ill-will or personal issue with either yourself, Dan, or anyone else on here for that matter. At this point I simply have zero respect for Dan and any of his students who are:
1) UN-willling to share while criticizing others (especially non-constructively),
2) refuses to engage in substantive on-topic discussion, and
3) doing the foregoing while peddling seminars and not offering any description/video for would be attendees.
I would have that lack of respect for anyone who did the same. The fact that your garbage spilled into my thread urked me enough to be less than cordial, but I do commend and thank you not continuing to post so it can return to being on topic with no BS.
The longer this "Ip/is" buffoonery goes w/out a lack of description or video,the more I am inclined to believe there isn't much of anything special that is worth going to a seminar for (at least for any IMA'ist worth their salt). Had Dan come on here with a different approach and more info, I may have even attended a seminar if welcome. I am all for supporting other non-Mcdojo teachers out there, and potentially learning something along the way.
I am disappointed to see that given this thread is on the exact topic you wanted to discuss-you still won't bother. I say you take this opportunity to be on topic, friendly, and forget all the crap, we don't need it here, or anywhere. Besides, who needs the stress?
Best,
Gary