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Chris McKinley wrote:Yeah, you come across as assholish for sure. Have I missed something or have you already posted an explanation of why he, or anybody else, should give half a fuck what you think before he's had a chance to evaluate if you're worth wasting his time on?
wuwei sifu wrote:hi folks,
thx. for all of the replies.
1st. it was no way to fully present what transpired with us without posting it. we weren't talking about any hidden/secret stuff that should be kept private/personal so that's why i posted what i did. if someone says something personal/private to me i respect that and always will. the stuff i don't hare would make one hell of a book in reality.
also i know how many folks are so i can see how maybe some think i'm rude. if you met me you would not think so though. i speak very frankly and respectfully.
like i said i don't pull punches. i speak to folks who say they know this and that, not knowing what type of background i have or how much i may know about their specific style or in general.
when they finish telling me about what they have studied or say they know; my first statement is always the same . can you show me your kung fu/ what you spoke about. most seem to be surprized that i even asked that question which for years has puzzled me because it seems like a valid question to ask under the circumstances.
so going back to Mark J. i thought about my reply to him each time i did so, i altered it in my mind before writing it so i would be 2 things.
both direct and respectful , as i said and you folks viewed i like to be frank. I know frankness is something that now days seems to be anything but nice/cordial.
Yet, after living 50+ yrs. folks seem to have respected my frankness. i have dealt with complete strangers who always seem to know that i'm not feeding them a bunch of BS. . also to be frank i don't know how they even know that i'm telling them the truth. i have had bulldog(A.P.B.T.) men tell me things over the phone that they have never mentioned to a stranger before. all the old timers who are good/legit dog men seem to be able to smell a bull shitter a mile away.
this is the 2nd. time i have ever asked for this kind of help. i have always have good instincts about people/animals not needing a second opinion etc. etc. .
Yet, i am still changing & growing which to me means maybe i should open up a bit to others and do things a little different then i always have. part of the reason i'm in the situation i find myself is that i didn't wish to make comprises or play along with the standard societal games that are played & adhered too; forcing one to be and act different then what they truly are.
Yes, i took my stands & did the right thing. i also have payed the price for doing so even though it was the right thing to do. Some folks can still respect that, but alot of folks these days simply don't have the balls to do so, even though in their hearts the want to. so i know i made myself vulnerable/opened myself up to criticism by making this post. I'm a big boy now i can handle that & even though my societal peng jin is very weak which annoys me to no end i am still strong enough to handle anything anyone has to say about me/to me. btw i can do so without getting pissed and loosing my cool too.
so far as ego tripping, i have very little left. i don't have to prove that to anyone, but if you were around me long enough you'd agree all on your own that you were just wrong. I'm very much like those A.P.B.T.'S who as tough and game as they are, can also be very gentle & sensitive in a substantial way, not being wimpish/nor lacking any back bone ...
lastly, people always ask me if i know of anyone that teaches this or that style i could recommend . i think about it & then them truth from what i know, i have also on occasional done so with specific warnings based on the person spoken of so they don't get smashed needlessly lol. so thanks for the replies and also thanks for letting me know that my own counsel that i have trusted all my life is still the most important even though my mind, body, and spirit has undergone drastic changes over the last 10 yrs or so
mrtoes wrote:The trouble is what might be good principles for interacting with people in person makes you come across very badly in written communication. All the context of face to face communication is lost.
In general I think that if you're going ask "challenging" questions then it's way better to just show up and ask them. It takes more balls, all the context is there, and it can be highly amusing for us students
Seriously, I'd strongly encourage you to delete your account of your e-mail conversation with this chap. It's out of line, unfair on him and makes you look really bad.
Doc Stier wrote: a person's body will ultimately provide more viable information in 5 minutes or less of observation/contact time than their mouth will in 5 hours of talking about it all!
Bao wrote:Doc Stier wrote: a person's body will ultimately provide more viable information in 5 minutes or less of observation/contact time than their mouth will in 5 hours of talking about it all!
I remember well how I decided to stop listening at a teacher I had many years ago. Instead, I would just watch and feel the quality of his movements. First then I really started to learn from him.
Mr_Wood wrote:what was the point of this thread again
wuwei sifu wrote:Mr_Wood wrote:what was the point of this thread again
by this info in this thread folks here didn't get it obviously. if no one new anything about this teacher they should have said so. instead of going in the direction they chose to go. it was their choice to do so & i never intended anything else with this thread.
my niece & nephew do the same thing all the time. i ask them a simple question; but they answer a question that was never asked ,it has become habitual.
yet, they are 15 & 14 not close to being adults or more mature because mommy and daddy babied them...
i can't tell adults to change and expect them to.i can only hint or speak my peace.
yes,i have asked the same type question face to face with no issues . so folks who have a tendency to read something else into what i posted naturally miss the target that wasn't aimed for in the 1st.place.
wuwei sifu wrote:Hi yall ,
well, i wanted to know if anyone knows Mark Johson. i'll include some email info he sent me in hopes that it might rings some bells out there.
this should satisfy some, but know that i deleted this since i made my position known, hopefully clearly so . ; not because i agree with your outlook on the issue.
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