Bao wrote:jonathan.bluestein wrote:". He actually thinks the Chinese are being honest about their intentions. Well, he's in for some surprises...
It seems like it's politically correct to mock chinese people and speak about them using racial generalizations.
But in fact, there are many honest and kind chinese, just like there are honest and kind people in any other place on earth.
Of course. I meant the Chinese he was describing. The kind that tells clueless laowai that "they are now their best friend", or that "the new experiences with them were extremely meaningful and changed their lives". I have heard that bullshit so many times... It is unbelievable, so cliche. In Tianjin, basically half the young ladies dating foreigners would tell them stuff like "I love you" and "lets get married" within 1-2 weeks. Other times you got this man on man talk with "we are now best friends". I had Chinese people pulling me on the street giving me business cards and pretending they really and honestly want to start a business relationship with me (nothing like that ever happened, of course). They just wanted to be seen conversing and having a relationship with a foreigner.
I ain't talking some low-class street hustlers. All of the people who I had described had at least a (Chinese) college education. But that's the thing - lying, exaggeration, falsehood, social pretense, face... It's all a part of that culture. Sure, not everyone are like that. But it is very, very prominent. This week my Pigua class was joined by two ladies who earned a degree in East-Asian studies and spent a few months living in China. First thing they had to say of that experience? I will quote: "Well, when it comes to the Chinese people I met and that I work with, nothing surprises me anymore. It is just the norm for them to lie and pretend". I'll be damned if I wasn't told just that 2 days ago!!
You know that thing with Jews being disliked because everywhere they settle they tend to make lots of money at the expense of other groups of people? (writing this as a Jew). So the Chinese have their own bullshit. It ain't about race, it's about culture. Every ethnicity has its own bullshit. I don't see why for the sake of political correctness I ought to pretend that these Chinese folks Ido was describing were not attempting to emotionally con him. That is exactly what they were doing, and like most other foreigners, he is not going to be pleased when he discovers that there is a huge gap between what such people are willing to tell you, and what they really mean. Then this cultural norm of their is going to backfire. 'Made in China' is a concept invented by Chinese greed. They rightfully earned the privilege of being tagged as doing/making nasty things by their own faulty sets of behavioural patterns, just as the Jews did many cultural mistakes which brought the (greater) wrath of other nations upon them. It does not make it justified to dislike either Chinese or Jews on the whole or generalize for every single members of such ethnicities, but these truths cannot be ignored.