Steve James wrote:You couldn't have fought back when you were a child. If you'd fought him after you trained, it would have been murder. You wouldn't have felt better at all. It was he who probably ended life with beating a kid on his conscience. You ended up stronger and better than he.
Steve James wrote:Well, in the west, there's a saying that if you seek revenge, dig two Graves.
everything wrote:well this is why certain wars never stop
Steve James wrote:Well, in the west, there's a saying that if you seek revenge, dig two Graves. The problem is not the dead bully. It's how his acts still bother John. He can keep living with those feelings or not. There's nothing to be done about the past.
Actually, the only way to get over it is to forgive the person, and hope he can't forgive himself. That's one road to healing. I know that it's not the most popular. In some cultures, they would dig up the bodies of dead enemies just to keep injuring them in the afterlife. I get it.
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Well, if you really want revenge, you attack the people your enemy loves. But what does that make you?
If you want some good examples of revenge and its effects, look no further than Shakespeare. Titus Andronicus and that Scottish play come to mind. There have been equally bad examples in recent times, but nothing beats the human imagination. Rwanda is an example of the worst atrocities yet the most hope.
johnwang wrote:I always want to punch one of my elementary school teacher on his face. One day I heard that he had passed away, I regret that I didn't punch him when he was still alive.
Why do I hate that elementary teacher so much? When I was in my 3rd grade in Taiwan, one day I got into a fight with my classmate. The teacher hit that boy once, he then hit me 6 times. The teacher asked me whether if I understood why. I said that I didn't. He said, "Because you are a pig". Back then Taiwanese would call a Chinese who immigrated from China to Taiwan as "pig". All my kid life was the history of "pig fought back against human's racism behavior.
Old Chinese saying said, "It's OK to wait for 3 years to execute your revenge". I assume I have waited too long.
Do you have similar experience?
C.J.W. wrote:My aunt, who's in the same generation as you are, also got called an "outside-of-province pig" 外省豬 by a Taiwanese teacher when she was in elementary school.
She got her revenge by beating up the teacher's youngest son who also went to the same school, which I thought was absolutely genius and hilarious!
johnwang wrote:I always want to punch one of my elementary school teacher on his face. One day I heard that he had passed away, I regret that I didn't punch him when he was still alive.
Why do I hate that elementary teacher so much? When I was in my 3rd grade in Taiwan, one day I got into a fight with my classmate. The teacher hit that boy once, he then hit me 6 times. The teacher asked me whether if I understood why. I said that I didn't. He said, "Because you are a pig". Back then Taiwanese would call a Chinese who immigrated from China to Taiwan as "pig". All my kid life was the history of "pig fought back against human's racism behavior.
Old Chinese saying said, "It's OK to wait for 3 years to execute your revenge". I assume I have waited too long.
Do you have similar experience?
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