Insightful post, Deus. At the risk of sounding like I'm patting myself on the back, this thread's posters have advanced the conversation on this general topic a lot more than I've seen in recent years. To me, reading the rational thoughts of thinking people applying their intelligence to the subject of martial training in ways that open up that training to new potentials of progress instead of just blindly and vapidly parroting the traditional party line represents some of the best of what any internet martial arts forum is designed for. If we're not sharing objectively useful information with each other that improves each other's training and performance, we're basically just a water cooler or a knitting circle.
RE: "It is something I am guilty of too sometimes. Its easy to get caught explaining more than is necessary or carried away in the hows and whys of something and before you know it you lost valuable training time.". Mea freaking culpa. True as hell and, without self-regulation, I can be one of the worst offenders. If I have the luxury of really explaining something, such as in a private lesson, I'll do it. However, if that same student is also able to attend a group training of mine, especially if it's of a more intense professional variety, they're occasionally surprised at the difference in teaching style. I say as little as possible, keep everybody "doing", and if they stop to talk off-topic they get a warning. Next time they're either asked to choose either training or leaving. With certain groups, they don't get a second chance, they get a surprise hit. Unfortunately, you really can't do that with the public at large....more's the pity.
RE: "If you can't do something with someone at least trying to lightly punch you in the face then you don't know it.". You're too generous.
IMO, if you can't do it with someone trying to hit you full on then you don't know it.
RE: "Honestly the way I was taught as a kid is completely different than the way the kids are taught today, because kids today are not the same as when I was a child, and I am only 25.". Yeah, things are quite a bit different than they were in the 70's when I started. Today, if they allowed minors to participate in the same kind of full-contact stuff we did regularly back then, they'd be raided and arrested for all sorts of crimes and years of lawsuits would follow.
RE: "As to withholding info, I think there is a difference between deliberately withholding something a student can use and benefit from, and not telling them something because they are not ready for it.". Amen. The utter incompetence that is exemplified by the former is endemic to our arts and deserves a nice big helping of blame for why nobody can fight. Put undiplomatically, almost nobody in IMA in the U.S. is teaching people how to fight, whether or not any of them are intending to. Sure, they're teaching people shen fa, forms, tradition, terminology, varying degrees of good posture, maybe some sensitivity in some cases, and some good old-fashioned hard-work ethic in most cases.
All good things. But I can count on one hand the number of IMA instructors I'd consider even marginally qualified to teach professionals how to not get dead in da realz, and even then, most of them have no idea what to do outside of the domain of empty hands. If I'm being generous, that number might expand to a couple of handfuls if we're talking guys who can teach average citizens to get home safe from a real life-threatening assault on the way home. At current, I'd label absolutely no one among IMA instructors (myself not even qualified to be in the running) who are fully capable of training up sport combat fighters to compete on a truly equal basis with even top-level amateur fighters in the MMA arena. Not one. Granted, IMA instructors are self-admittedly not training anyone for that specific purpose, but my point is that not one of us is even capable of it even if we
wanted to. Kind of a sad commentary on the state-of-the-art overall.
Our arts and their practitioners need a huge kick in the pants, whether figuratively or literally, to get them even
valuing the ability to actually fight again. After that rude awakening, it's going to take years of open-mindedness, experimentation, and stepping outside of the loyalty comfort-zone in training methodology before it can ever honestly be said again that IMA, as practiced here, are truly viable as fighting arts. Nevermind entertaining any notions of IMA as being legitimate viable alternatives on the basis of pure functionality to the MMA approach. As they say around these parts sometimes....that horse done already rode off.