the rum soaked fist: internal martial arts forum

Helps relieve your potential spouse of having the burden of carrying your own unconscious projections and undeveloped self-expectations. LOL

Might help untangle the web we so often weave.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1rXzODp7xnQ

Wow, so simple yet incredible.

Its a good place to start - old adage "a thousand mile journey starts with where you stand (or with the first step)" but its a pretty good idea to start with putting on your own boots first and making sure they fit!

I like the message but it’s a shame he believes in a wrathful deity that is insecure enough to demand that you love him above all others.

Asimov knew what he was talking about in Foundation.

Think the point of the OP is too many people in the dating scene walk around with a laundry list of what they expect their other half to be, without ever thinking "If I were to bump into a person that fits all of these criteria, am I actually well-developed enough as a person that they would like me?".

Having bumped into a lot of that kind of person in my dating days, the vid really resonates with me - do the work on yourself first, and good things will come.

That is standard therapy/recovery schtick

I believe it's a rather clever trick to use unconscious projection on others to one's own advantage.

Make it clear for yourself what attributes you pin on your better half. Then integrate this into your self and become whole.

You will be very secure in yourself.