Cheating on your Woman

[internalenthusiast]

assuming a committed relationship:

if you love your woman, don't cheat.

if you don't love her, then don't be in the relationship.

if she does cheat, and it bothers you, question whether you should be in the relationship. if it doesn't bother you...then, ditto.

i dunno why i'm responding to this, except it seems simple (on the surface) compared to some things people may deal with soon.

of course, these things are never simple really. i know this.

best...

ps: if you are dealing with a sociopath or psychopath (or someone who professes to not understand your sense of morality, and you instinctively care about this) run don't walk. you won't regret it. s/he is not right for you. BTDT.

[peachesgeorgia]

Cheating is a matter of preference, of course. When you cheat, your morality comes into play. Cultures and society are both so diverse, that it is best to follow your own instincts. The most important facet you will have to deal with is the aftermath of your decision.

I have answered this from a broad spectrum of reasoning. I personally think it is better to be honest with others, and stay away from anything that may hurt you or someone else, in the long run.

[Muad'dib]

I have not cheated, and will not for the following reasons.

1. The reason why the majority of men cheat has very little to do with sex, and much more to do with self esteem. They want to feel wanted. It is very much along the lines of the porn star who fucked a lot of guys for attention. (Jenna Jameson's book talks about this quite bit). I have no mommy issues, no feeling of problems with admitting my position in the world, etc. I don't need sex or any relationship with a random girl to make me feel better about myself.

2. Financials... Cheating is very common in Japan, on both sides. I have one friend who just recently went through a divorce because he "got some on the side" and his ex found out about it. The guy is an I-Banker. He lost a 35K ring, half an 800K condo, a car, and an undisclosed amount of cash monthly... But he blames his ex. The reality is that the bit on the side he got cost him at least 435K. Marriage is a contract. Keep it in your pants or pay the price.

3. Disease... Well, how do you think the guy in #2 had his wife find out?

And finally, I agree with Michael's earlier assessment of sex, chakra, and the value of establishing an emotional commitment to improve the quality of sex.