klonk wrote:
We Yanks always have protocol problems with the Japanese. On one occasion, I was welcoming a Japanese who was nominally my subordinate but obviously older. I bowed, hands at sides, at the same moment he extended his hand to shake. I straightened up and put out my had as he bowed.
We never did get along.
of course i wasn't there, but i'm sorry y'all didn't get along. it sounds potentially like an "after you alphonse" moment, with potential for laughter? but maybe there were other issues at stake.
on a slightly different note:
my family had some japanese kids live with us for a while when i was little. they were in the US to study the suzuki violin method. i liked them. of course i had to listen to variations of twinkle twinkle little star ad nauseum on the violin. but they did play pretty much in tune.
the main thing i remember is that they wanted to eat rice with jam on it for breakfast. weird, i thought, but kinda cool. they were very disciplined, but also very friendly.
my family also had some shansi/shanxi program involvement, which supports intercultural educational opportunities between the US and asia, based on mutual respect and understanding. i was too young at the time to get all the implications, but am glad for the early sense that mutual growth and respect between cultures is a very real possibility. and in these times, i think a necessity.
when i was last in china, i was among other things teaching a workshop at nanjing university. there was a group of chinese students there who were actively working with some students from japan to create a multi-media piece based on sino-japanese relations and history, including the rape of nanjing. i really respected the efforts of those chinese students, and the japanese students. it's no small thing, when one considers their history. they were trying to mend something.
one of the things i appreciate about my childhood (and particularly my mom's influence) is that i always felt people were welcome in our family, regardless of their backgrounds. so i had as a kid, black friends, chinese friends, japanese friends, mexican friends, etc. and there was never any judgment, on the basis of culture or color. we were taught that people do things differently, but that was part of how the world works.
given all this, somebody bowing doesn't cause me concern.