Primed for conflict
Posted: Sun Jan 15, 2023 7:40 am
The internet is getting to me lately.
It seems like everywhere people just want to be disagreeable and find fault.
Nobody is interested in establishing common ground and increasing understanding, just staking out a position and defending it. Just seeking out fault and anger.
It's almost like people are just miserable. Dis-empowered and frustrated. Ignorant. Blisteringly free of self-examination.
They are unhappy, and it makes them angry, and they don't want to (or feel like they can) look at their own responsibility for their misery so they want to blame others as an excuse to inflict it on them.
Thereby lessening the load on their own spirit, in theory.
In practice it seems like it's just adding more gravel to the heavy side of the scale.
Now in saying this... am I telling on myself? Is it my own unexamined misery and internal conflict that influences me to see this behavior?
In Taijiquan terms, am I feeling my tension against their tension or am I joined and weighing it?
I'm prone to think that thinking to even ask the question and having a willingness to use it as a jumping off point for self reflection is at least a healthy strategy for mitigating one's own neurosis and conflict seeking behavior. Maybe even the damage received from bumping into others'.
At the end of the day we have to accept the wicked world on its own terms, I just wish people worked a little more on getting along and advancing common interests.
It seems like everywhere people just want to be disagreeable and find fault.
Nobody is interested in establishing common ground and increasing understanding, just staking out a position and defending it. Just seeking out fault and anger.
It's almost like people are just miserable. Dis-empowered and frustrated. Ignorant. Blisteringly free of self-examination.
They are unhappy, and it makes them angry, and they don't want to (or feel like they can) look at their own responsibility for their misery so they want to blame others as an excuse to inflict it on them.
Thereby lessening the load on their own spirit, in theory.
In practice it seems like it's just adding more gravel to the heavy side of the scale.
Now in saying this... am I telling on myself? Is it my own unexamined misery and internal conflict that influences me to see this behavior?
In Taijiquan terms, am I feeling my tension against their tension or am I joined and weighing it?
I'm prone to think that thinking to even ask the question and having a willingness to use it as a jumping off point for self reflection is at least a healthy strategy for mitigating one's own neurosis and conflict seeking behavior. Maybe even the damage received from bumping into others'.
At the end of the day we have to accept the wicked world on its own terms, I just wish people worked a little more on getting along and advancing common interests.